Class objective ~ To give insight on what helps make a marriage work and things to avoid so you dont go down the road to the big D. (I think things that I have learned through the course of my marriage, and the ending of my marriage have helped me to know what works and what doesn't) 

I was talking to one of my co-workers that is newly married, and seems to have a really good marriage, but they all start out good, right?  It's what comes after the first & second year, and most definitely what comes after having kids, that is important to having a strong healthy marriage. Am I right?  The obvious key to having any kind of relationship last, is communication. No matter what kind of mood you're in, or how mad you get, or how happy you are. Feelings need to be expressed. If you feel that you can't be open and express your feelings to your mate, then there is a going to be definite problems, and it will probably get worse as time goes on. Make sure when you are thinking about long term commitments with someone that they understand this, and feel the same way. (also, if they do not feel the same way, 99.9% of the time, they will not change later, so keep this in mind)

Feelings need to be validated, no matter what they are. Even if you think your mate is dead wrong, tell them WHY you think they are wrong...dont just say...you're wrong and walk away. Explain your thoughts, or if you dont have time, say "I dont have time to explain it right now, but I think you're wrong" Respect of your mates thoughts or ideas is very important whether you believe the same way or not. Acceptance is a part of love, and that means accepting ALL of them, ideas and thoughts included.  Do you think our society can do that? I seriously do not think so, but hope still prevails.

I will stop here, for now! Enjoy life and make today special

Juliette